Thursday, January 31, 2013

DAY 152 - BACK TO WORK!

It was a very good feeling to go through my closet looking for that just right outfit to wear to a conference.  YIKES!  This was a group I'd never worked with before.  Hmmm.  Would the black silk jacket lined with hot pink be too much?  Could I still walk in high heels for an entire day?  Should I carry a briefcase?  Damn, where did I put my pads of paper?  

YES, yesterday this retiree started back to work!  It felt pretty good, at least for the first 3-4 hours, then I started to remember what it was like to actually pay attention, sit in a chair, not talk, not surf the web....for eight hours.  Whew.  I appreciate all of you who are still working even more; and I am wondering if I can still do it.

My project is to summarize a two day meeting on a topic with which I am not familiar.  My first reaction was to balk at the task because it seemed awfully easy.  I'm having second thoughts now as I have received three emails with about 8 or 9 attachments I need to review, organize and put into a 4-5 page paper for the same people who were at the meeting and of course know the subject matter inside and out.  Somehow it doesn't seem as easy as it did yesterday.

Here is another shocker for those of you who have not yet retired.  For every dollar of work you perform, subtract 43 cents.  Yeah, I know that I've been paying taxes for at least 49 years, but in all of those days, the taxes were subtracted before I got the check.  My employer also paid some of them, like social security.  Somehow, that seems so much less painful than what faces me in the future.   

  • GONE - 25% to Uncle Sam.  
  • BYE BYE - 6% to Aunt Virginia.  
  • HASTA LA VISTA - 12% to cousin Social Security.  
It makes this "big government, bleeding heart liberal," almost want to cry.  I'll get over it.

This and any other little jobs I get are going into my travel fund.  That's what will keep me going.  Oh, and I also really enjoyed being among a group of people who were still working.  I kind of felt sorry for them.  Being retired, it is so nice to know that I don't have to accept an assignment if I don't want to.   hahahahaha

Potential employers - I'm not laughing at you.  Keep those requests coming.  I'll be thinking of all of you on my walking safari in Africa.  

Monday, January 28, 2013

Finding solace in a strange place


It was a tough five days at home dealing with elder care issues...not terrible, but constantly reminding me of what the future may have in store.  I took solace on the internet and found solace in the Inauguration poem, of all places.  I'm not sure how many have read the whole poem,  but I copy it here, courtesy of ABC news.  It was not what I was looking for, but I'm glad that this is what I found...a poem about our great land, our people, and the ordinary steps we take each day.  So many have dealt with what I and my siblings will face in the near future; so many have dealt with other issues.  I thank the author Richard Blanco for this beautiful poem.

"One Today"
One sun rose on us today, kindled over our shores,
peeking over the Smokies, greeting the faces
of the Great Lakes, spreading a simple truth
across the Great Plains, then charging across the Rockies.
One light, waking up rooftops, under each one, a story
told by our silent gestures moving behind windows.
My face, your face, millions of faces in morning's mirrors,
each one yawning to life, crescendoing into our day:
pencil-yellow school buses, the rhythm of traffic lights,
fruit stands: apples, limes, and oranges arrayed like rainbows
begging our praise. Silver trucks heavy with oil or paper—
bricks or milk, teeming over highways alongside us,
on our way to clean tables, read ledgers, or save lives—
to teach geometry, or ring-up groceries as my mother did
for twenty years, so I could write this poem.
All of us as vital as the one light we move through,
the same light on blackboards with lessons for the day:
equations to solve, history to question, or atoms imagined,
the "I have a dream" we keep dreaming,
or the impossible vocabulary of sorrow that won't explain
the empty desks of twenty children marked absent
today, and forever. Many prayers, but one light
breathing color into stained glass windows,
life into the faces of bronze statues, warmth
onto the steps of our museums and park benches
 
as mothers watch children slide into the day.

One ground. Our ground, rooting us to every stalk
of corn, every head of wheat sown by sweat
and hands, hands gleaning coal or planting windmills
in deserts and hilltops that keep us warm, hands
digging trenches, routing pipes and cables, hands
as worn as my father's cutting sugarcane
so my brother and I could have books and shoes.
The dust of farms and deserts, cities and plains
mingled by one wind—our breath. Breathe. Hear it
through the day's gorgeous din of honking cabs,
buses launching down avenues, the symphony
of footsteps, guitars, and screeching subways,
the unexpected song bird on your clothes line.
Hear: squeaky playground swings, trains whistling,
or whispers across café tables, Hear: the doors we open
for each other all day, saying: hello, shalom,
buon giorno, howdy, namaste, or buenos días
in the language my mother taught me—in every language
spoken into one wind carrying our lives
without prejudice, as these words break from my lips.
One sky: since the Appalachians and Sierras claimed
their majesty, and the Mississippi and Colorado worked
their way to the sea. Thank the work of our hands:
weaving steel into bridges, finishing one more report
for the boss on time, stitching another wound
or uniform, the first brush stroke on a portrait,
or the last floor on the Freedom Tower
jutting into a sky that yields to our resilience.
One sky, toward which we sometimes lift our eyes
tired from work: some days guessing at the weather
of our lives, some days giving thanks for a love
that loves you back, sometimes praising a mother
who knew how to give, or forgiving a father
who couldn't give what you wanted.
We head home: through the gloss of rain or weight
of snow, or the plum blush of dusk, but always—home,
always under one sky, our sky. And always one moon
like a silent drum tapping on every rooftop
and every window, of one country—all of us—
facing the stars
hope—a new constellation
waiting for us to map it,
waiting for us to name it—together.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Neurologists, dementia, more tests

So what if you can't list the months of the year in reverse?  Who cares if you can't spell 'world' backwards?  You are 82 years old, you've raised six great kids, you've buried your own parents, three siblings and one grandson.  You are the rock and the rock star of this family.  You taught me to sew, clean, do crafts, treat people well, get joy out of a blooming calla lily.  You are my role model.

Dementia is such a terrible word.  Does it mean you can't drive yourself to bingo any longer?  Will it cut the one tie you have to independence?  What does it mean for me?  Yes, I am that selfish....what does it mean for me!  Maybe the neurologist is wrong....more tests he said, but dementia is what he put in the record and what he wrote on the paper he gave me.  More tests.  Can you copy this drawing (two pentagrams intersecting)?  Okay, she can't draw.  Can you spell "world"? - no backwards, he says.    I want to yell out - she can't spell, she never could.

What day is it today? "The 34th."  She can't hear you, she's confused because she can't hear you very well.  I know she knows it is not the 34th, doesn't she?

"Walk down the hall towards me," he says.   She looks so beautiful and she is walking really well.  Even the neurologist admits it.  Soft signs.... maybe the MRI and blood work will point to something different.

I'm not prepared for this.

In twenty years, I'll be 82.  Dementia is an ugly word.

Monday, January 21, 2013

Inauguration 2013

I simply LOVE the Battle Hymn of the Republic.  The Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir did a great job.  I never thought much about this song, other than that I liked it.  Now however, I'm thinking about our "republic"...our system of government run by a man (woman?) elected by the people.  One definition says that a republic is a " state in which the supreme power rests in the body of citizens entitled to vote and is exercised by representatives chosen directly or indirectly by them."   That seems like something we should be honoring.

Kelly Clarkson hit it out of the park with My Country 'Tis of Thee, and Beyonce with the National Anthem.

Weather here in the DC area was a real gift today.  Last week was cold and rainy every day, tomorrow it will be in the low 20's, but this morning it was in the 30's and sunny when I took my visitors to catch the Metro for the Inauguration.  Friend and I enjoyed the whole thing on TV in front of the fire.  I love the grandeur, will live through it all this evening when my visitors recount all that they saw and did today, but I like my comfort too much to get down to the Mall.

God Bless America!


Sunday, January 20, 2013

The simple life of the retired.

- Since the painting class, it has been a bit slow around here for things to post.  I got quite a chuckle out of this one, though:  US programmer outsources own job.  This guy hired a Chinese programmer to do his work at a fraction of his salary, then played on the computer all day.  Sort of like what I do all day, BUT I AM RETIRED.  HA HA HA HA HA..I think he was being pretty resourceful.

The rest of my week has been going to the gym (Body Pump three times and Yoga on Friday), walking with Friend, and chuckling each morning over Satchel Pooch and Bucky Katt's conversations about Bucky's hunting and killing expertise, or lack thereof.  In this one, Bucky is claiming he can take down a buffalo.  Note that he gets irate when he thinks Satchel is saying that a buffalo is an amphibian (ambitious/amphibian).  I love the last panel because of Bucky's big ideas about himself (I don't need women to do all my killing for me.) and Satchel's regret for asking for a kitten for Christmas....and getting Bucky!



Today my chuckle is just about Satchel's facial expressions and his beautiful naivete.


I'll be watching the Inauguration tomorrow from the warmth of the couch in front of the fire.  I've got optimism, kind of like Bucky, I suppose.

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

My bucket list - painting - class 2

 Last week I had my first oil painting lesson.  It was terrific.  We learned to draw the picture that would eventually be painted.  As a reminder, this is the pear that I drew last week.  I was very pleased to realize that I CAN draw if I just take my time.

The first thing we did in today's class was to set up our palette.  Not sure that you can see it clearly, but the colors start with lightening colors of white and a sort of cream color, then around the top with reds, yellows, greens, blues, umber and black.  I found it interesting how much the colors must be mixed for the final painting.  Having a feel for the colors, I am sure, is critical to being a an artist.  I just hope you can learn this, because it was much harder than it looked.  

This is my instructor's painting as she was showing us.how to do it.

This is my version (note that I fixed the stem from the original drawing).  I think it looks pretty good, but lots more to learn.  Besides colors, doing the shadows is a real challenge.  I'm keeping all of these for my portfolio and to remember from where I came....

Monday, January 14, 2013


“Meet me at the bookstore at the top of the Metro at Union Station.”  That’s how our New York City adventure began.  My  two traveling buddies and I spent this weekend in the Big Apple.  The stated purpose was to take a Gotham Writers’ Workshop on ‘travel writing,’ but mixed in were going to be an off-Broadway show – Tribes – and a Broadway musical - Peter and the Starcatcher.  The trip proves that three women let loose in NYC will have a ball regardless if the highly touted play they've paid big bucks to see is a stinker!  More about that later.

The weekend reminded me of the excitement of living in a big city and taking public transportation!  I'm not afraid to admit that taking public transportation still thrills me because it means I'm a big city girl.  I sort of feel like turning around in circles and throwing my hat into the air, a la Mary Tyler Moore.  That of course would negate my statement that I am a big city girl, but what the heck, I think you understand.  I still get smug when I tell my family at home that I took the bus to NYC!



For $35 round trip each, we met at Union Station to take the Bolt Bus complete with WI-FI and pretty comfortable seats on a 4 1/2 hour drive to the city.  The driver dropped us (and all of the other cool public-transportation-savvy-travelers) off at 33rd and 7th Avenue, smack dab in all of the action.  A short cab ride later, we arrived at our apartment for the weekend,  on the corner of Washington Square (courtesy of Motor Bike's nephew).  Yippee!!  Of course, this is New York, so the apartment with the fantastic view of Washington Square was a five floor walk up!  But we made it.

Tribes was a pleasant surprise.  We saw it Off-Broadway at the Barrow Theater right in our Washington Square neighborhood.  We had 4th row seats and congratulated us on getting such close seats.  We didn't know that Barrow is a small theater in the round and the LAST row is the 4th.  Great seats, regardless.  Tribes is about a young deaf man who has grown up in a very dysfunctional family of academics who have never fully accepted his deafness.  His life changes when he meets a young woman who has grown up with deaf parents and is herself losing her hearing.  It was very thought provoking.

Saturday we walked to Xavier High School in mid-town for a seven hour (!) class on travel writing.  The class was okay and I learned a bit about the travel writing profession, but it was addressed much more to people who wanted to write travel articles for money.  I was inspired to submit an article to the Post on our bike trip to Italy.  So that is going on my bucket list.

Peter and the Starcatcher - winner of five Tony awards, touted by Entertainment Weekly as "an absurdly funny fantastic journey!"  The New York Times hailed it as "The most exhilarating story telling in decades."  Friend and I just kept looking at each other and wondering why most of the other audience members were laughing.  The play is based on a series of children's books by Dave Barry, one of my favorite humor writers.  The books are about Peter Pan, and this play is about how he became Peter Pan.  I just didn't get it and don't mind admitting it.

Sunday, we walked to the High Line, a magnificent "public park built on an historic freight rail line elevated above the streets on Manhattan’s West Side." It is a really beautiful walking park above the streets of Manhattan.  It uses an old railroad track that would have been torn down as a place to view gardens and art.  Get there when you are in the city.  Stop by Chelsea Market, too.  It is right across the street.  Go there when you want to eat.


Funny window in apartment on the High Line


Produce market at Chelsea Market

Funny sign
  The trip was so great that we've decided we must go back and just explore the neighborhoods.  So my next bucket list item is to plan future trips to NYC to do just that.  




Friday, January 11, 2013

VOLUNTEERING - The Retiree's new frontier


Wednesday, Friend and I started what we hope will be regular visits to Martha's Table, a food kitchen in Washington, DC that serves about 1,000 meals a day to the homeless and hungry and also runs a child development center.  It was a great day beginning with a bus ride to the Metro, then a Metro ride to the U Street corridor, the home of Martha's Table and the Washington landmark, Ben's Chili Bowl.  Our first job after donning hair nets (I took along my ball cap so I avoided the dreaded hair net), was to cut two crates of oranges into eighths and place them in plastic sandwich bags.  Sounds pretty easy, except after about 40 oranges each, we learned we were cutting them wrong.  Luckily we were not asked to start all over, but just started cutting them in 8ths the correct way so that all of the pieces were slices of the orange, not chunks.  I'm not sure how else to describe this.  Next we made meat and cheese sandwiches with bread donated by local stores (Safeway seemed to be the major donor).  Each diner will get two slices of turkey and one slice of cheese.  As I fulfilled my responsibilities, I kept thinking of who would get these sandwiches and what it would mean to them.....can't imagine being hungry and lining up at a truck to get these lunches....well really I don't think I know what real hunger is like.  Our worst job, because the chicken was so HOT, was to de-bone two LARGE pans of baked chicken.  It smelled so good, but was so hot hot hot.  I believe my thumbs have 3rd degree burns.  We will make this a regular volunteer activity, but switch to Thursdays (so we don't miss Body Pump.)

Martha's also provides winter coats and gloves to the homeless when the food trucks go out.  I am going to take a couple of mine and try to pry a few from hubby (he loves his coats---this could be a battle).  They also need business type clothing, which they provide to the poor who are going for interviews.  I've got plenty.  May be a time to start getting those out of the house, too.  I'll hit up some of my friends, too.

Of course, we could not resist the chili dogs at Ben's.  That is an activity that we cannot continue as a regular stop.

I'm not sure that this is THE volunteer activity for me, so I've signed up with the Fairfax County volunteer office.  Let's see what else might be in store for me.


 I'm adding this photo of my dog Chapi just because it is so darned cute.  Don't you think so?


Tuesday, January 8, 2013

OIL PAINTING CLASS - UPDATE

In reality, I didn't want to go to the basic oil painting class today because I can't draw and I have no talent.  But, I had put over $500 into the project, I've been telling everyone for years that I want to paint and I just couldn't stay home.  I am SO glad that I did it.  It was terrific.  There is so much to learn.  One of the best things I learned today is that not all painters are terrific  at drawing.  I also learned that even the teacher can paint better from a photo than from a live person. 

We learned about under-drawing, which is basically drawing the picture you will eventually paint with oils.  Our first subject is a lovely green pear sitting on a blue cloth.  This is my drawing except that I've fixed the stem since I took this photo so it is more curved and therefore looks more like a stem than a stick!  I think my pear was pretty good.  It wasn't the best, but was not the worst.

Met a woman in the class who paints in acrylics with a palette knife and not brushes. I  loved her work and hope to learn more about her techniques in the future.  

It's funny.  I left that class on cloud nine.  Maybe you CAN teach old dogs new tricks.  More to come as the pear ripens.

Monday, January 7, 2013

DAY 129 - Time, where does it go?

To those considering retirement, I am here to tell you, time just fleets by.  This is why I've not made a post in several days....I just haven't had/taken the time.

My oil paintings are going to be worth a lot more than I had anticipated.  That is because Saturday I walked (with Friend) to the Art League Store to purchase supplies for my beginning oil painting class, which starts tomorrow.  $315!!  I will be painting three pictures:  one green pear, two bosc pears (brown I believe) and one still life of my choice.  For this I had to purchase 10 expensive brushes (2 made of sable), 15 tubes of paint, paper, tape, and cleaning medium.  I am sure to learn alot because I can't figure out how those 15 colors would be needed to paint those three pictures.  I'll be sure to include photos in future posts to preserve my efforts.  My fear is that my efforts will be akin to the 80 year old woman in Spain who tried to fix a centuries old painting of Jesus.  Honestly, if you don't see my paintings this spring, just figure I was too embarrassed to show them.

NOTE TO SELF:  "Just because you lift weights 2 or 3 times a week, does not mean that you can pick up a case of Heineken from a grocery store cart, if you are not in the correct position."  That little move cost me two days this weekend with a strained lower back.  That meant I did not get the house cleaned, which has become quite an obsession with me now that I am retired.

Downton Abbey - None of us watched it last night because we didn't want to stay up that late!  Isn't that sad?  I used to go out dancing about the same time I go to sleep now.  Time marches on.  The good news is that we will have a DA party tonight with pizza and wine to watch the start of season three.  Girls' parties rule!

Busy week this week:  Body Pump, painting class, Martha's Table, Body Pump, New York City.  Whew.

Thursday, January 3, 2013

DAY 125

The holidays are over, my visitors are gone, and it is time to get down to the business of my retirement plans.  From my perspective, January 2, 2013, is the beginning of the rest of my life.  That sounds really important, doesn't it?  That date is not that momentous, but I had given myself 3 months or until after the holidays to live life without much of a plan.  Those who know me, know that being plan-less is not my normal way of life, so beginning yesterday, I started developing the plan.My first order of business was to set up my exercise routine.  Friend and I returned to Body Pump yesterday morning.  I don't know about her, but my chest and gluteous maximus are hurting this morning.  We got back.  That is the important thing.  In the afternoon, we plotted out our routine for the next week.  More BP, Yoga for me and if I can find my Zumba buddy, Zumba for me next week.  The cardio of our routine, other than my Zumba, will be what we are calling "destination walks."  That is, we are plotting out places to go in this area that would involve 4-6 mile walks.  Last summer, for example, we walked from Georgetown to Union Station to visit the H Street re-vitalization.  That was about 6 miles, and then we took the bus back.  That was a great walk!  Usually Friend plans the destinations, but I need to get moving and figure out a few.                                                                                                                                     2. I am volunteering at Martha's Table next week.
3. I start painting classes on the 8th.
4. Rosetta Stone (Spanish) and a tutor the following week.
Let's see how all of this goes. 
 My calendar has at least one thing on it for the next two weeks, including a trip to New York this weekend for my travel writing class, a play and a visit with my old friend, Nadine.